Seizing Destiny with a Paintbrush: How Selling $35,000 of Art Fulfilled My Kids’ Dreams
Every Sunday morning, my father would take his family to "The Starving Artist Show" at the Holiday Inn in Bellevue, Washington. First, we'd enjoy a Sunday brunch, where my brother and I would fill our bellies with strawberries, pancakes, and bacon. Then we'd be turned loose to discover the next artists who would become famous.
The Art World According to My Dad
I was raised with the notion that all artists starved while waiting to be discovered—a feat requiring a combination of luck and talent. My dad talked about art and the art world as if he were an experienced collector. He said it was extremely rare and nearly impossible to succeed in the art world, and that most artists die anonymously with rooms full of their paintings never to be seen by anyone.
After failing to steer my artistic interests toward architecture, my dad encouraged me to pursue art. He bought me art supplies and talked about how I could paint as a hobby as something to do while I raised children. He expected me to marry a doctor, lawyer, or engineer who would take care of me while I raised his children and played with my paints.
Our First Steps in the Art World
Much to my dad's disappointment, I earned a BFA in painting and married another artist who was completely unemployable. I didn't have a concrete plan for what John and I would do with our lives, but I thoroughly believed the myth of the starving artist.
To everyone's shock, John and I both got jobs painting and creating art for the decor market soon after graduating from college. We made small salaries but painted for a living. Although a year later we went freelance and painted from our home studio and sold art to dealers, I still didn't really believe deep down artists could make it or be affluent with art sales. I thought at best we would get by, churning out art for dealers hoping they wouldn't dump us and leave us to starve.
The dealers affirmed our groveling hearts with statements like, “You both are pretty lucky to be connected with us here at 'Such and Such Fine Art'! Without us, who knows what would happen to you.” Or “If you don't like how it works here, there's the door. We have desperate artists lined up down the street hoping to work with us here.” We believed them and tried to behave ourselves at all times.
Determined to Fulfill Our Daughters' Dreams
Five years into our careers, we were working with a dealer in Scottsdale, Arizona, and a few other outlets still in Georgia. Our daughters, Dimitra and Dafni, were three and one years old, and they really wanted a swimming pool to beat the Arizona heat. We took them to the neighborhood pool, but there were always wild older boys who ran, jumped, and roughhoused, which scared them.
We really wanted to get a pool at the house, but the quote came in at $30,000! We had $10,000 in a savings account, and that was it. John and I got together and made a plan: we could sell over $30,000 in art that month and pay for the pool in cash. This would mean a lot of hustle, negotiating, and painting 80-plus hours each week for both of us.
The Power of Dreams and Determination
We were determined. We created a power statement, gave it to God, and got to work. We didn't let up once the entire month. We tallied our sales at the end of the month and realized we made $35,000. We could pay all of our bills and buy our daughters their swimming pool. John and I looked at each other, and at that moment, we realized we were in control of our destiny. We truly had free will. That was the moment I knew the starving artist myth was a lie.
From that point on, I knew my success was entirely dependent on my choices and strategies while listening to God. For the rest of my life, no one could ever tell me that artists can't make it—that I was lucky to work with some dealer or gallery who was my savior from poverty and that without them, I was doomed.
Crossing Over: Entering a New World of Possibilities
I had completely crossed over to the other side and entered an extraordinary world. This was where the dream chasers lived—a world shaped by destiny and purpose. In this world, I made my own decisions and was free from others' expectations and prejudices. The naysayers, haters, and jealous types couldn't touch me in this world. Our swimming pool served as a baptism, where we were reborn into a world of endless possibilities. $30,000 could be anything—it could be $100,000 or a million; it could be an island in Greece, a worldwide art institute, or even a movement that shaped culture.
Whatever we could dream of, whatever we could conceive, could be accomplished through a strong work ethic, a sound strategy, and consistent focus. Now, we were unstoppable and had the elixir for others to cross over too!
What was the turning point in your career where you felt in control of your destiny?
Life of an Artist is Not a Bed of Roses. You’ve got to have Tons of Courage and strong determination to succeed in the artworld. I’ve been a full time visual artist sinced 1985,after my first solo show in an art gallery located in a 5 star hotel. Sinced then, been traveling with my art in more than 3 dozen countries and exhibited in many of them. I strongly believed that artists must constantly change the poetic value of their art. These values enhances artistic creativity as well as personal growth. Indeed, artists should elevate their art process to get Not Stagnant and Boring. I really believed that every piece of art has to wait for the right buyer. You just have to get patient and very versatile as an artist, versatile means you just got to be very resourceful when it comes to using art materials, recycled things as much as you can, Don’t depend Always on commercial art materials.
Life of an Artist is Not a Bed of Roses. You’ve got to have Tons of Courage and strong determination to succeed in the artworld. I’ve been a full time visual artist sinced 1985,after my first solo show in an art gallery located in a 5 star hotel. Sinced then, been traveling with my art in more than 3 dozen countries and exhibited in many of them. I strongly believed that artists must constantly change the poetic value of their art. These values enhances artistic creativity as well as personal growth. Indeed, artists should elevate their art process to get Not Stagnant and Boring. I really believed that every piece of art has to wait for the right buyer. You just have to get patient and very versatile as an artist, versatile means you just got to be very resourceful when it comes to using art materials, recycled things as much as you can, Don’t depend Always on commercial art materials.
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Elli Milan Art replied:
Interesting insights! I agree we artists should keep evolving as we grow and evolved as people. Elli
Hi Elli, thank you for your words of belief. In a world of cynism, criticism and hopelessness, you having lived the experience of crossing over the other side and spreading hope that it is possible, gives us the power to trust.
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Elli Milan Art replied:
Yes Samia, trust and believe in your dreams! throw your whole heart into it and commit and devote yourself to doing the work consistently and you will achieve those dreams! I know you can do it! Elli
I just got tears in my eyes reading this article. I am at the point where I want to turn my passion hobby for art and make it professional. I know deeply that this is possible to make a living as an artist. This article and your experience is another proof on the way. Thank you so much for sharing your story Elli. Elise
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Elli Milan Art replied:
Hi Elise! I’m so glad this story touched you and affirmed what you know deep down in your heart. Your destiny is calling you! Fulfilling your dream of becoming a professional artist will inspire many!
What a beautiful and inspiring story, Elli! I grew up with the same understanding that artists’ struggle and it wasn’t a feasible way to earn a living. I went on to eventually get a job, get married, have a family and have been in the corporate for over 18 years now. Your Mastery Program has given me hope that I have an opportunity now to actually become a professional artist. I’m a long way off, but your inspiring journey and stories about it, keeps me hopeful and going! Thanks for sharing!
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Elli Milan Art replied:
You can do it, Priya! Just never give up and allow yourself time to develop.
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